“My partner can’t find out about this.”

Whenever we hear these words, it’s easy to assume that the person has been unfaithful or that they are on the verge of bankruptcy. But often they are about burnout and mental health struggles.

When we attempt to repress our feelings to “protect” our partner that way, it’s usually because we are scared to admit to ourselves that we need help.

This contributes to a bigger problem: our loved ones will sense that something is wrong, and it will only add another layer of friction to our lives.

You may be asking yourself: Do I have a choice in the matter?

But our partners already know that something is wrong.

Protecting your spouse could harm your marriage.

Your partner doesn’t expect (or want) you to be invincible.

What can you say when it’s hard to find the “right” words?